Pratyusha Banerjee"s Boyfriend Rahul Raj Absconds with Her Phone
Though the investigation is still on and it is too early to arrive at any confirmation over the suicide ofTV actor Pratuyusha Banerjee, let"s assume she was true to her words on her last WhatsApp status that read: Marke bhi muh na tuzse modana(even after death won"t be turning my face away from you).
Unfortunately, it came just days after model Priyanka Kapoor from Delhi ended her life after facingdomestic violence at the hands of her abusive husband. As a teenager, I witnessed my mother"s junior at office burning herself alive in hercar after three years of an abusive marriage.
Last year an established Delhi doctor, Priya Vedi ended her life and blamed her gay husband in her last Facebook update. Then, of course, there was Bollywood actor Jiah Khan"s death, which has been the subject of debate in many circles.
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The saddening thing inall these cases is that theseladies were financially independent, go-getters in their professional lives, and yet, somehow, crippled in their personal lives.
What makes successful women so vulnerable in relationships? Is moving on harder for them as compared to common people?
A recent Hollywood film, The Intern also revolves around the same concept. After discovering about her husband"s extra-marital affair, ayoung womanentrepreneur (Anne Hathaway) even considers throwing away her career-thesuccessful business that she has built, to save her marriage and win back her husband.
Are these women guilt-riddenthat they"ve given all their efforts to their career and not so much to their partners/husbands/family? Is this feeling so overwhelmingthatany blow totheir personal life becomes unbearable?
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Or is it the fact the men don"t date or marry ambitious women too often?Is it because these women haveinvested so much emotionally (given their all)onthe only man they lose their heart to?
Is it a fear that they might not get anyone else - better or worse beingimmaterial? Do they fear that no other man would be able to deal with their independence, ambition and freedom?
I once read Zoya Akhtar"s article in which she laughed away at the question on marriage stating that Indian men can"t handle successful women. She chose to be single because she thought a man wouldonly make her life miserable. She doesn"t want her life and creativity to be troubled for any unworthy man.
Provided the two extremes, I think not having the right man in your life is much less of a predicament than ending your life for the wrong one.
A few days or years spent with a worthless fellow is no reason to feel that you were not meant for love, or vice versa.A relationshipis not an investment or a business that you spent so much on, and it must churn results fast.
Another sad part is that resorting to such extreme steps shatters many young people who look up to these ladies as role models.
Again coming back to The Intern, Anne Hathaway"s character actually admits the reason she wants to save her marriage is because she doesn"t want to be lying lonely in the graveyard. I"m convinced she"s speaking for a lot of successful women, if not all.
Perhaps the fact that they are so terribly short of time for personal life, coupled with the scarcity of men who want to be with "ambitious" and "independent"women causes severe emotional turbulence.
Love is important, but not as critical as life. Fill your void with more worries, if nothing else. No matter what it takes, live on ladies.
Don"t think love makes you what you are; you make love look good.
No one is worthy to die for. Just nobody.
Source: http://www.dailyo.in/lifestyle/pratyusha-banerjee-suicide-balika-vadhu-priyanka-kapoor-jiah-khan-priya-vedi-the-intern-career-women/story/1/9855.html
